We can cultivate our attraction to kindness and availability, and as we do this, our dating lives dramatically change for the better.In a healthy relationship, it's important to understand your "flight patterns." The risk of love scares us all.You have the right, and even the obligation to yourself to move on until you find the real thing. These "attractions of deprivation" are tricky and confusing.They often feel more like real love than healthy love does!Celebrate what you found, and do your best to nourish it. Or instead, do you find that your partner continues to be integrity-based? Talk to your partner about your feelings, and if things don't change, it's probably time to move on.If you really want love that can last, it's doubtful that you'll find it here.To someone who doesn't appreciate you, your true self may be a turnoff.
I call this phenomenon "The Wave", because like a wave, it can slam you off balance, yet in time, it will simply fade away.Take advantage of all the possibilities the online world offers, but use them wisely.Dating sites are programmed to make us think in terms of numbers, to keep hopping to the next person, the better and sexier match. There will be a constant feeling of uncertainty and that's not what we want when we're dating.for love usually determines the kind of love we find.Popular culture assails us with romanticized images of love, and then encourages us to play dehumanizing games in order to find it.