While I had a few false starts—message chains that petered out after six or seven exchanges—I actually prefer Her’s setup to Ok Cupid, the dating app I’ve used most in the past.Not only did I spare myself the messages from hetero couples looking to spice up their marriages, I also took more chances. Oh, your six things you couldn’t live without weren’t creative enough? I am a terrible coward who will use any excuse I can find to avoid interaction, so the lack of information available on Her worked for me.Paltrow certainly didn't hold back when asked all the tough, personal questions by Stern—she even broke her silence about her ex's new leading lady, Jennifer Lawrence!But rather than recap the lengthy interview, we decided to give you the five juiciest tidbits, in no particular order, for your viewing pleasure.1. On Oral Sex With Chelsea Handler: Truth be told, Paltrow's advice to Chelsea Handler has already made headlines, and she's sticking to it!On Ben Affleck and Strippers: Stern asked whether Paltrow and Affleck were on bitter terms because she reportedly once said that he "would be better off dating a Scores stripper." To which she replied, "Well, that was true at the time. On Sex Tapes With Brad Pitt: Paltrow joked that she and her former fiancé never made a sex tape, sharing, "Do you know what's so sad? And on a serious note, about her former flame, the blond beauty confessed that her father "was devastated when we broke up," explaining, "My father loved him like a son."4. Stern applauded Paltrow for telling her famous pal that more oral sex would result in fewer fights in her relationships.But he's settled down and his wife is awesome." She also added that "he wasn't in a good place in his life to have a girlfriend," and explained that she was "more shallow" in her twenties when it came to picking her suitors. On Girls' Night With Jennifer Garner: Paltrow continued to gush about Affleck's wife, saying, "Now only is she beautiful but she's so warm, she cooks, and she's so into her kids and she's great. The Oscar winner added, "I had a girls' dinner and she came over. Is that [our relationship] was before the days of videos on your phones so we had nothing! On Chris Martin's Child-Naming Skills: Despite getting a ton of flak for naming her first child Apple, Paltrow pointed the finger at her ex for coming up with the unique moniker all on his own. Paltrow clarified, "You don't have to always fight. Show him that he's a man, and it's a good thing energetically to do." Stern interjected that "a lot of guys are insecure" when it comes to dating such well-known, powerful women.I scrolled through hundreds of photos of Her users, liking photos of a chef, a dancer, a medical student, and dozens of pet owners posing with their fur-babies. In the week that I was hacking the app, Her announced a major change—an option to list your gender on your profile.
Whether it’s Fluid, Lesbian, Bisexual, Pansexual you name it, in dating, any label is better than none." So, with my ideal eight pictures uploaded, and my sexual orientation labeled, I waited for the likes to roll in. About two minutes after I finished signing up, someone wanted to chat, which meant she liked one of my photos.In the five days I used Her, I talked to 11 users, interacted with a global and local community, and (drum roll here) actually landed a date.So, while I don’t have any hacks for IRL coffee dates, I do feel a little better about my chances of going on them in the future. I’m terrible at dating in general, but my go-to online dating move is to get a message from someone cute, and never ever respond. So, when Robyn Exton, the CEO at Her (stylized as HER), a dating app centered on lesbian, bi, and queer women, asked me if I was interested in their latest study on the best hacks for their app, a small, scathing, and very single voice inside me hissed, "You need this." The PR photos didn’t hurt.Who wouldn’t want to be in that pile of cute women?