I used to have a friend who said, "I seem to have a very liberating effect on whatever man I'm dating.We go on three dates, and the next thing I know he's moved in with me, he's quit his job, and his car is up on blocks in my yard." Certain men are more prone to this type of liberation than others, I have found: Carpenters, river guides, and flamenco guitarists all fall into the category of men who are perfectly willing to hand themselves over to the care of a good woman, as well as visual artists, stage performers, and racers (ski, bike, boat) of all kinds.However refreshing this might sound the first time you hear it, listen carefully for a voice that is trying to convince itself, listen for the creak and crack of a personal mythology in the throes of shattering.
The calls and e-mails are making the phone lines sweat; two months later he's begging you to visit.I seem to have dated an inordinate number of men who have just been left by a woman for a woman. Put it at the top of the category that includes he won't make eye contact with your kid, he doesn't want to meet your sister, and he whines the first time you make plans with your girlfriend.In general, these men are angry beyond all reason, no matter to what lengths they may go to disguise it, and if you date one, be ready to give up all your girlfriends, or you will be accused of being a lesbian, too. A man threatened by the love you have for the dog you sleep with is going to be threatened by more things than you can name. As a parent, you have to be careful with the people you allow into your life. You’re no longer worrying about things like: Is he handsome? Just remember, dating a single mom is not the same as dating a party girl with little to no responsibility.