He asked me if I wanted to hang out, and I said sure.
"Just want to give you a heads up, though," I wrote.
Sometimes when you move to a new area it can be difficult to find a date…so why not start by looking for an online friend.
Loopy Love has thousands of members in major cities like London, Birmingham, Edinburgh and Glasgow and across the UK.
But I ended up hating them for dating because of their "all or nothing" protocol.
The ample matches I'd make would either a) never talk to me or b) always and incessantly talk to me and get upset if I didn't reply as rapidly or enthusiastically.
"I was serious when I said I'm just looking for friends on my profile.
You're so nice, and I don't want to lead you on in any way.
As a very extroverted person, I believe the more people around, the merrier (and richer) life is.
So I filled out my profiles honestly, noting in each I was not looking to date, "only make friends :)." This practice got trickier on more information-intensive apps—I literally responded to Coffee Meets Bagel's "I like it when my date…" query with a "doesn't want to date me. But Laurie Davis, author of and an online dating consultant, later told me that strategy was all wrong: Being direct was the kiss of death.
"If you're looking for friends, I would just not write anything about that until the very end if they ask you a question about it," she said. "On OKCupid, they ask you 'you should message me if…' and I would say something really casual there like, 'You think having a drink would be fun.' Use words like 'fun,' which is an indicator of more for social than anything else." She didn't have a lot of faith in my whole friend-getting scheme, really.
I began my experiment in mid-August, downloading Tinder, Hinge, and Coffee Meets Bagel.
I was familiar with the apps beforehand: I used them for a month in summer 2013 when they were new and the It Thing among my friends, the source of all our war stories.