I often hear the old, tired line that black folks need to work on themselves before they can mingle romantically with other races. You can still advocate for change and love your blackness if you have a non-black spouse.Being in an interracial relationship doesn’t make you Black.No one is suggesting Black women avoid black men altogether. We’ve been trying to “work through our issues” for over a century.Why can’t it be Black men and all men, instead of black men or no one at all? I’m not willing to keep sacrificing my sisters for the sake of the cause.Unlike other dating experts, hers is a success story. Here’s what she had to say: Candice: Can you tell us a little bit about yourself and how you’ve become an advocate for interracial couples?Christelyn: As with most advocacy, my motivation comes from having my own experiences.I mean actual, real-life interracial relationships. Despite its higher representation on TV and in pop culture, this is still a taboo subject, and one that is often met with a range of emotions that are not always positive.So I decided to talk to interracial relationship expert, Christelyn Karazin, Brand Ambassador for Interracial Dating Central.com, who gave her thoughts on the subject and why she is an interracial dating advocate particularly for Black women.
Candice: Why do you think there are so many Black women who don’t consider dating outside their race? Our country’s shameful history of slavery is often used as a club to beat Black women into submission about dating interracially, particularly when it comes to white men. I would say that if you’re the type of person who is overly concerned with what other people think about your life, then interracial dating is not for you.
Which bills are they paying to have this much power in your life?
Candice: Despite the popularity of shows like , do you think that interracial relationships still face a stigma in pop culture and society? However, with in particular, there’s some elements of the old stereotype of a Black woman waiting in the wings for a white man who already has his white wife and family. I like that in both shows the Black women are able to express a full spectrum of emotions.
I’ll admit there’s still some hesitancy to connect offline by both genders—I know this because they write me constantly about how to overcome it.
But meeting online allows for everyone to get to know one another in a low-pressure way, and build if there is a desire to do so on both ends.