Im 16 and as a sophmores point of view, I would want my mom to show me that she is gaining trust in me and I would want to see that my mom can be really open with me about it.
As long as you show her you care :) I'm the oldest of 4 girls... I like the inviting him over for dinner idea, get to know him.
Talk to her like you would one of your friends in this situation.
My parents told me that I couldnt date a guy that was older than me and I continued to see him behind their backs.
Talk with your daughter and set boundaries together. That’s where all this bad behavior is coming from, but a 14 year old dating is perfectly fine.
I want to be able to chat about this with her, without her totally dismissing what I have to say. Maybe go out on a lunch date or picnic, something nice that says, "I love you, so let's talk and spend some time together." She may not understand at her age that even a couple years can be drastic for teens in terms of mental development, maturity, experience, and what they want to spend their time doing.Get to know him and figure out their feelings for each other.My mom was uncomfortable with my boyfriend who is 4 years older.Just talk to your daughter make sure she knows what it is that is concerning you so much but don't try to push him out of her life, more than likely she already knows she may only have her freshman year with him.Their will be peer pressure on both sides so she doesn't need the stress of her parents not liking him to add on to it.