"You're spending a lot of time together, going out on dates, meeting each other's friends, and not seeing anyone else.Sounds like a girlfriend to me." "It is an unspoken understanding," he said, "In agreeing to be exclusive, we're basically saying, 'I like you and want to see if this continues to be good, so I won't do anything with anyone else that could mess this up, but officially calling you is a little too much at this point.'" Ok, so..."How is dating her exclusively any different from calling her your girlfriend?" I asked a friend who had recently broached the exclusivity threshold with his consistent hookup.
I don't care if you're the most self-confident, well-adjusted person around; rejection hurts. So instead of asking the person on a date, you go on approximations of dates that allow for plausible deniability of all romantic intentions. Fear of rejection alone has resulted in the proliferation of Starbucks like a French-roasted virus.
By all means, don't ask a person out just because you think he or she is cute but know nothing else about them. I often get the questions: Figuring that out is the easy part.
If you find the person attractive, you can't stop thinking about him or her, and you're unsatisfied with the intimacy that friendship provides, then it's time to ask out instead of hang out.
These things might worry you, but something else makes your palms sweat and your pulse hit triple digits: asking someone out on a date.
That's because asking someone out involves potential pain. Worst of all, you engage in the most banal and abysmal of non-dates-going to coffee.