When Becky was invited to lunch by a man she met at a bookstore, she was excited.She was ready to date and had taken time to seek God and heal after her divorce three years earlier.Don't wait to put some practical boundaries in place, such as not staying at your date's home overnight.You can also establish an accountability group made up of those who know and love you.To begin healing, you'll want to seek counsel from committed Christians who are willing to walk through the grief process with you.This may mean seeking out your pastor for support, joining a Divorce Recovery group or visiting a Christian counselor.The second, which I elaborate here, regards a failed relationship with God. They too sought God’s help, but when they did not receive it, they simply concluded that God did not exist.
I was 13 & my mother & father [were] getting a divorce. I prayed to God but nothing fails like prayers.” Likewise, a woman raised in a Methodist household described her In a variation of this theme, some deconverts lamented God’s inactivity amidst spiritual difficulties. This theory describes humans as judging the value of relationships in terms of costs and benefits.
God’s perceived failure took various forms, most of which fall under the general heading of “unanswered prayers.” One way that people felt that God had failed them happened when He did not respond to requests for help during difficult times. ” His answer: “Too damn many.” Still others sought a tangible sign of God’s presence.
A young man raised in a Baptist church epitomized this feeling of failure when he wrote about God not answering his prayers about family difficulties. A former Pentecostal exclaimed: “There were many nights while in bed I would ask God to show me the truth, or give me some type of sign to show that he or she existed. So I would just go on with my life having doubts.” Likewise, a former Baptist missionary wrote: “I’ve begged God to show himself to me and put an end to my inner torture.
Some divorced church-goers try to convince themselves that God's command to abstain from sex doesn't apply to them — that it's for the never-married crowd.
However, Scripture is clear that it doesn't matter if someone has been married or not, sex with someone other than your spouse is still fornication (I Thessalonians 4:3, I Corinthians 6:9).