She’s also a seasoned vet of dating as a plus woman — as well as navigating a long-term relationship (she and her partner recently welcomed their first child; for the baby pics alone, you should check out her Instagram).
With her guidance I’ve put together a list of reminders to bear in mind when diving into dating, whether you’re new and nervous or experienced and tired of the BS.
"The larger issue is that men often fail to see past mere size and grasp the true inner beauty of plus-size women." Woo Plus is deploying Big Data resources and AI technology to add an extra layer of safety to the popular dating site to assure plus-size ladies are aware of the pitfalls of SDD-based relationships.
"We are about helping people meet true, loving partners through our app, and more than 100,000 people are already active on the site," Li said.
I’m bad at everything from the awkward conversations with people I don’t know, to mingling uncomfortably with strangers at parties.
It’s not that I’m an introvert or anti-social (alright, fine, I’m anti-social), it’s just that over the years I’ve found that dating, as a plus-sized woman, is more of an exercise in patience and frustration than it is one in romance.
Larger women can easily mistake an SDD-based relationship for true love, leading to crushing heartbreak, Li adds.
"These innocent, loving women think their partner will care for them, but they end up being victims of SDD." "The good news is that thanks to coverage on sites like MSN, Askmen.com, the Independent and the Guardian, SDD is becoming better known," Li said.
"As soon as winter is over they show their true face.
Woo Plus is warning its 100,000 users such shallow approaches often leave heavier ladies abandoned and heartbroken when warm weather arrives. "Sadly, at this festive time of year, we feel it necessary to put out a warning." Seasonal Dating Disorder is the practice of starting a romantic relationship during cold weather, only to abandon the new love interest as spring approaches.
Recognized by psychologists and sociologists, SDD is linked to a rise in melatonin in cold weather, which triggers a slower pace and a preference for snuggling at home, Li said.
Man, they really drill in the message early with this nonsense: Maybe that’s why dating as an adult so often feels like being in a class we’re failing. With rare exception, dating is considered a pain in the arse, but a necessary hurdle if you want to advance to the next romantic level.
And when you’re plus-sized (or if your appearance doesn’t conform to mainstream beauty standards in other ways), dating can seem fraught with even more challenges.