Second of all, the greater likelihood is that not that he’s intimidated, but that he doesn’t want to be challenged by you on every little matter. Most of them want to date someone younger – because they can.This doesn’t mean he wants you to “dumb it down.” It means he wants you to “take it easy.” That said, men ARE impossibly shallow. Clients who tell me, as they show me their lists of hot, underaged favorites, “I can’t help what I’m attracted to”. But if you are all the things you say you are, I have no doubt that some quality single dad is going to grab you and never let you go.But as we mature and value ourselves, we tend to court what makes sense for us in the long term.I’m not suggesting that the drama queens make sense to your ex’s, per se. I was on a plane two days ago and found myself seated next to an attractive and wealthy 59-year-old man. Keep in mind if you’re reading this that a younger woman doesn’t have to be a sycophant or a brainless chimp (although some insecure men are just fine with that).So Evan where can I find the emotionally available mentally healthy men who will appreciate a woman like me? Joan A very honest letter, Joan, which is particularly timely, given yesterday’s thematically similar posting. Now, by your estimation, there are no men out there who are either a) interested or b) qualified for a long-term relationship. And let’s delve into the assertion that “being a pretty, happy, vivacious ‘cool chick’ is a big negative strike against you. What is true is that your options are unfairly limited.
I’ve tried all the big dating websites and I go out a lot (that is another weird phenomenon – men my age sit home on the weekends and don’t go out and do anything so I never meet anyone by just going out and having fun).
Everyone talks about how middle aged men want to date younger women, but take a look at some twentysomething profiles and you’ll notice how many are willing to date men up to twenty years older then them, but rule out candidates born 12 months after them.
That’s their perogative, but i can’t help but wonder how many women dated older men in their twenties, and then complained that their peers considered them too old 10 years later.
Every time I hear a woman saying that she “intimidates” men, this is what comes to mind. If you’re still finding that there isn’t one quality man in the world who wants a quality woman like you, I have to question something.
First of all, you don’t want to be with a man who is intimidated by you. Just know that there ARE men out there who are looking for peers. I’ve had single parent clients find the love of their lives on Match.com, JDate and Nerve. But one thing I’ve learned from years of dating and dating coaching, is that there’s nothing to learn when placing the blame squarely on everybody else. There are quality men out there – even if they’re few and far between.