"I couldn't bring home a black boy," the 11th-grader said. The reason that blacks and whites remain the most controversial of the mixed matches is that America's history of slavery, segregation and bans on interracial marriages has made it difficult for many to forgive and forget, said San Rafael marriage counselor Joel Crohn."The trajectory of the browning of America is different for blacks," said Crohn, author of "Mixed Marriages." "They were forced over here by slavery, most stigmatized by society.Yaa Asantewa "Taunya" Vonfeldt, an African American who grew up in the predominantly white town of Santa Rosa, broke through the black-white barrier six years ago when she fell in love with a white man and had a child with him.At the time, Vonfeldt, 25 and a junior at San Francisco State University, thought love could conquer all.The fact that the younger generations -- unexposed to Jim Crow laws and other interracial bans of old -- are struggling with the issue, even in the Bay Area, indicates that skin color is at least as big a barrier as anything else when it comes to forming relationships.
Ernest shares some thoughts with his his wife, Jodene Morrell, during Easter Sunday services at their church in San Jose.
"Thompson told me that Stella and her boyfriend were not allowed to sing in the church any more," said Mr Harville. ” He added that the ban was a “black eye to the church, a black eye to our community and a black eye to God”.
“The way I look at it, it's a slap in God's face to say something like this," he said.
"When I told my mom I was marrying Ernest, she broke into tears," Morrell said quietly. ' " Morrell's husband acknowledged that his mother told him at 18 that she was sad about so many "professional black men marrying non-blacks." But his family now loves her very much. and it will be a long time -- if ever -- before race is no longer an issue." At the fifth annual Hapa Issues Forum this spring, hundreds of multiracial students gathered at the University of California at Berkeley to debate "the changing perceptions of mixed-race America." During an afternoon workshop on dating, a 52-year-old Japanese American woman told a circle of young people that she didn't think that things were all that different from the 1950s -- despite great advances in the civil rights movement.
For the first time ever, she started talking about the difficulties of dating outside her race. Most experts and interracial couples would agree that there is a lot less open hostility in the Bay Area, a place known for its diversity and progressive attitudes. "I did feel that there would be more open-mindedness," said the Berkeley woman, who asked that her name not be used. But in other respects, I feel there is an invisible line between racial groups." Indeed, a recent lunch hour at the racially diverse Galileo High School in San Francisco seemed divided along invisible racial lines. that's OK." Randy said his parents would be much less of a problem if he dated outside his race. When I was dating a black guy, nobody said anything to my face.